if you need immediate assistance DIAL . . . 911
call NCADV (national) ...........1-800-799-7233
Some things are slowly changing. When I needed help, there were no websites to go to and no one wanted to get involved, especially if drugs were involved. However, you are taking the first step, right now, and at this very instant, by looking for support. It may not seem like it to you, but that frantic, desperate, afraid-to-make-a-move feeling, along with the pounding of your breaking heart, is the signal that your body is sending to you, and that's how you know something isn't right. This signal won't quit. However, the problem isn't 'getting fixed'. You have spent time after time, maybe, blaming yourself or even looking the other way, hopeful that your other half will awaken and come to his/her senses.
If you have children, you may only be coming to the realization that something needs to be done to protect them, and to give them a healthier environment in which to grow, so that they have a fair chance in life to move ahead from a more solid foundation. You may think that they do not notice, cannot understand or see, but children are extremely perceptive, and, just like you and me, they turn this pain inward and blame themselves. Perhaps all of this is very severe, and you are holding your breath as you are reading these words. Or not. Abuse takes many forms.
First of all there is the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. They are available twenty-four seven. There is a national number to call as well as local calls for assistance. From there you will be able to find out about available shelters in your area as well as safe houses. This will be especially important to you if you have children and are concerned about their safety and welfare. You will be informed about the types of services available You will be advised about your choices if you are concerned about financial difficulties.
I will be adding links to this website in order to make it easier for you to sift through important information, stories and types of assistance.
If you need IMMEDIATE assistance, as you feel that your life, or the lives of those around you are in danger call . . . 911
call NCADV (this is the national number) . . . 1-800-799-7233
please check below for a state by state listing.